The wheels are in motion for our trip, both literally and figuratively – my mom is on her way here so that she can spend the next 2.5 weeks with Matt and Miranda and Atticus. Tomorrow afternoon Madeleine CaiQun and I will head to St. Louis to begin our journey to China.
As we look toward our trip, I’m feeling acutely the need for prayer, moreso even than with our last adoption trip. Perhaps it’s that I know more this time – the more I know, the more I realize that I cannot make things happen all in my own power. It’s also that I’m traveling without Matt this time – I am so thankful that my brother and sister-in-law will be there with me, but it will not be the same as having Matt (and my other kiddos) there, too. FangFang’s medical needs are also more significant than Madeleine CaiQun’s were. Adoption trips are always intense, but I am especially feeling the weight of that this time. Would you pray with and for us? Here are some specific requests:
- Please pray for our safety in traveling (and in remaining home). I know this is morbid, and I know that probabilities are small, but my biggest fear is that the plane will crash or that Atticus will dive head-first off the table, and we won’t all see each other again this side of heaven. Please pray that we all survive the next 2.5 weeks.
- Please pray for Matt and Miranda and Atticus and my mom. I’ve done a lot to make their time as easy as possible – freezing meals and leaving gifts – but these next couple weeks are going to be a significant departure from normalcy for everyone. Please pray that they have fun together and do alright.
- Please pray for all the travel logistics. These are not insignificant. CaiQun and I have 2 separate flight itineraries (one domestic; one international), meaning that the airlines don’t really have to work well with us for the international itinerary if our domestic flight gets delayed tomorrow and we miss the international flight. Then on Sunday, we’ll be taking a taxi from our Hong Kong hotel to the train station, where we’ll catch a train to Guangzhou. We then need to meet up with a van our agency is sending to take us from the first Guangzhou train station to the second, and we’ll take a train from that second station to Nanning. Please pray that all goes smoothly in all of this craziness.
- Please pray for little FangFang’s heart. Her world is about to change dramatically, and we pray that her heart be prepared for and open to us as her family. We pray that we will be able to show her some love and fun early on. Please pray especially for her bond to me – children joining their families often can only handle bonding to one adult at a time, and my brother and sister-in-law are awesome, but it would be ideal for her to form her primary bond with me first. I am anticipating some heavy grieving from her as she leaves the nannies from her foster home and comes to us.
- Please pray for Madeleine CaiQun. She has some anxiety about returning to China. My prayer is that this trip is a beautiful experience for her, but I’m not certain how it will go. Please pray for her processing her return to her birth culture, as well as her adjustment to becoming a big sister again. Please pray that she’ll allow my brother and sister-in-law to care for her at times, especially when FangFang is needing me.
- Please pray for my endurance, patience, graciousness, and love. I expect these to be some of the most intense parenting weeks of my life as I mother 2 girls through huge experiences in their own lives.
- Please pray for everyone’s health. I’ve had a persistent sore throat and just feel generally yucky, which I suspect is nothing significant, but I’m heading in to get it checked out this afternoon, just to be sure before I leave the country and my access to Western medical care. More significantly, please pray that we make it home without any of FangFang’s bones fracturing. I’m traveling with splinting supplies, but we won’t have such great access to medical resources in China to review my splinting or get x-rays easily or provide care in the event that a fracture would be truly serious.
- Please pray for my brother and sister-in-law. I am so thankful that they are joining us on this journey. Please pray for the 3 of us adults to work well together through what will be, at times, a stressful trip. Please pray for our communication and for us to have great grace with each other.
- Please pray for wisdom in decision-making. We are going to need to make the call of whether to request permission to visit FangFang’s orphanage. We will have to decide how much sightseeing seems wise and how much we’re going to need to just hunker down in our hotel room. There’s still some question of where we’ll stay in Guangzhou – there’s a serviced apartment building just across the street from the hotel at which our agency has people stay, and staying there would save us a ton of money and give us more space, and that’s where I’ve been planning for weeks to have us stay…but someone staying there last week gave it a pretty unfavorable review, and I’m still not 100% certain how we’re going to handle that situation.
- Speaking of money, please pray for financial provision. We’ve applied with one more grant organization, and it would be a huge blessing to get some funding from them. We’ve borrowed money to pay the rest of the costs associated with this adoption, and please hear me when I say that this debt is worth it. We go into debt for houses and cars; bringing a child into a family is of so much more importance than those physical things. But needing to pay back thousands of dollars of debt at the same time that we are incurring thousands of dollars of medical expenses for FangFang’s initial medical care is going to be tough.
- Please pray for these next 24 hours or so at home – I still have some packing to do and miscellaneous tasks to finish (paying bills, etc), but I’d also like to spend some good quality time with the rest of my family, whom I won’t see for so many days.
- Please pray for all of our hearts as we are separated as a family for the next couple weeks. This is so hard for me.
- Please pray that we can honor our God as we interact with various people in China. Please pray that we are respectful and loving in all we do.
- Please pray that we keep our priorities straight and focus on what’s truly important about and throughout this trip.
I’m going to share the basics of our itinerary below so you’ll know a bit more of how to pray each day. Keep in mind that we’ll be 14 hours ahead of Central Time – so, for instance, our meeting FangFang on the morning of Monday, December 12 is still going to be your evening of Sunday, December 11. If you stay up late enough and I have good enough Internet and a calm enough baby, you may get to see some pictures – Sunday nights are a time of rejoicing in the China adoption community 🙂
Here’s our basic schedule –
- Wednesday, December 7 – Madeleine CaiQun and I fly from St. Louis to Newark, where we’ll meet up with my brother Daniel and sister-in-law Sharon.
- Thursday, December 8 – We have a 1:00 AM flight from Newark to Hong Kong.
- Friday, December 9 – Because of the long flight and the time change, we leave at 1:00 AM on Thursday but don’t arrive in Hong Kong until 6:00 AM on Friday. We’ll head to our hotel to drop off our bags and then try to stave off jetlag by going out and sightseeing for the day.
- Saturday, December 10 – We’ll have another day of sightseeing in Hong Kong and continuing to adjust to the time difference.
- Sunday, December 11 – We’ll travel from Hong Kong to Nanning via the rather complicated route I detailed above.
- Monday, December 12 – We’ll meet and take custody of FangFang.
- Tuesday, December 13 – We’ll finalize FangFang’s adoption.
- Wednesday, December 14 – Thursday, December 15 – We’ll hang out in Nanning while we wait for FangFang’s passport to be ready. We may take a trip to her city to visit the orphanage from which she’s from. We may do some sightseeing in Nanning. Or we may need to spend a lot of time building bonds and connections in the hotel room.
- Friday, December 16 – We’ll travel from Nanning to Guangzhou.
- Saturday, December 17 – We’ll have FangFang’s medical exam.
- Sunday, December 18 – Monday, December 19 – We’ll hang out in Guangzhou, maybe doing some sightseeing, while we wait for the results of FangFang’s medical exam.
- Tuesday, December 20 – We’ll have our consulate appointment to finish the process of applying for FangFang’s visa to enter the United States.
- Wednesday, December 21 – FangFang’s visa should be ready.
- Thursday, December 22 – We’ll take the train from Guangzhou to Hong Kong and then board a flight from Hong Kong back to Newark. The time change works in reverse this time – we’ll leave Hong Kong around 6:00 PM but arrive in Newark around 9:00 PM. My dad will fly out to Newark to meet us, and he and I and the girls will spend the night in a hotel.
- Friday, December 23 – My dad and the girls and I will fly back to St. Louis, and we should arrive back in Columbia mid-afternoon.
Solid internet access is never a guarantee in China, and of course, actually caring for FangFang (and Madeleine CaiQun) is going to be my priority, but I do hope to be able to post regularly and keep you all updated, and should you want to send encouragement or prayers, I should be able to get them while there. Thank you for praying, friends!