There’s a NYT op-ed that’s been making the rounds this week called The Unborn Paradox. Douthat notes that, “In every era, there’s been a tragic contrast between the burden of unwanted pregnancies and the burden of infertility.” He notes that, today, 20% of all pregnancies end in abortion and concludes his op-ed with the words, “This is the paradox of America’s unborn. No life is so desperately sought after, so hungrily desired, so carefully nurtured. And yet no life is so legally unprotected, and so frequently destroyed.”
Particularly after becoming pregnant with Miranda, my sense of awe and wonder at these tiny little beings that grow and develop inside of us was infinitely amplified. Matt and I were thrilled to hear her little heartbeat at our 12-week appointment, and we waited in anxious anticipation for its re-emergence at each subsequent doctor appointment. Long before we held her in our arms, she was our precious little girl. We were in love with her. And ultimately, every child is just as lovely and amazing as she is.
It’s so sad to me that so many women feel trapped, feel forced to choose between the dreams that they desperately wish to pursue and the lives of their little babies, no less precious than my own little girl. It’s heart-wrenching to think of all those tiny people, never given the chance to experience the world, feel the love of a mother’s arms, or dream their own dreams. And I know abortion can be a devastating choice for pregnant women, too – there are consequences for her that last for years, long after she leaves the doctor’s office, both physical and emotional.
So I plead with you, my (few) readers, if you ever find yourself facing an unplanned pregnancy, please don’t choose abortion. And lest this come across as merely an empty directive, I promise you, friends, that whatever the situation, whenever it is, if you find yourself pregnant but not able to care for a baby, I will help you to find a family who will love him (or her) beyond measure, care for and love him (or her) with all that they have and all that they are.